Revelations Part Two

I have had loads and loads of messages and questions regarding my recent post about my friends revelations . . . The most emails I’ve had following an entry for ages. (Perhaps I should write less about my own experiences and more about other things!!)

Just to completely and generally answer the most recurring themes/comments and questions . . .

1) I have known her since school days and she has always been the most sensible and “stable” of all of my longstanding-friends. There is absolutely no question of me having to think for even a moment about supporting her in whatever she asked of me.

2) Her husband has always seemed a lovely person and both J and I have always gotten along with him perfectly well. He doesn’t know anything, or suspect anything, about it. He is “a wonderful father” but, apparently, has never been particularly adventurous “in bed” and that she never really knew, until now, about “being satisfied”.

3) I have spoken with her (on the phone) several times in the past two weeks since our dinner. She has told me that seeing her new man has left her feeling deeply guilty afterwards, but that she “can’t help herself” and that, in fact, it has made her realise how much she still loves her husband. She says she has no intention of leaving her husband and children, and has told [her new man] this. She says she is unsure about his [her new man] intentions, but she can’t stop wanting to see him.

5) No I haven’t told her about “me”. I WAS going to, but J said I shouldn’t tell her in case things “go wrong there and we get caught-up in other peoples dirty-washing”. BUT anyway, in the conversations I’ve had with her I’ve hardly been able to get a word-in . . . she has been so excited and telling me about how she feels like a teenager in her first real romance. I made the point of telling her it was hardly a “romance”, but I know how she feels about the flattery and excitement of suddenly finding “after all these years that someone else actually fancies me!”

6) I also know how she feels about the “release” of just being able to tell someone else . . . but, sorry to disappoint, I won’t be sharing anymore of her revelations here (and she doesn’t tell me any “details” anyway, and even though I am curious (of course!!), I haven’t asked).

I suppose the point of my mentioning her revelations at all, is just that (apart from the sheer surprise of it coming from her), it just further confirms my own feelings that it is a perfectly natural . . . and common . . . feeling / emotion to desire that sense of longing for, and in more cases than a lot of people realise, to actually occasionally experience the sexual attentions of a “different” partner.

End of subject !!

Best wishes - Edith
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